The Practice of Encouragement

We all start somewhere. It doesn’t really matter, only that you have arrived here.

Welcome and get ready for an amazing ride!

First steps:

Raise your awareness: Noticing

Purposefully notice details that you might never have paid attention to before. Notice what you like about someone- the stories they tell, how they make you feel, what they do for others, how they treat others – there are a million things that you can notice.

Find one thing to appreciate about them and tell them that specific thing.

Setting your intention

Start your day with a positive intention for yourself. It could be that you will purposefully notice details that you might never have paid attention to before. Notice what you like about someone- the stories they tell, how they make you feel, what they do for others, how they treat others – there are a million things that you can notice.

Find one thing to appreciate about them and tell them that specific thing.

Notice their reaction.

If you want to take this to another level write a few sentences in a journal about what happened both to them and to you. How did doing this make you feel?

Create questions that elevate the conversations

We typically say things like: how are you, what’s going on, how’s your family, etc.

What if we asked more interesting questions? Perhaps we would find ourselves engaged in deeper conversations that mattered a great deal?

Here are some examples:

What gave you the most joy this week, month, year?

What was the best thing you did for another person this year?

What are you most proud of in your life?

What do you think is the most important attribute of a great friendship?

What is the most creative way you have appreciated someone?

What was your biggest dream when you were 20 and what is it now?

How are you living intentionally?

What are you grateful for?

Listen first

Listen first talk later. Ask the question that provokes more than a yes/no answer and sit back and listen to the response.

Listen for what is said – what stands out as important, what is left out? What was unsaid?

Join The Encouragement Project on Facebook group and tell your stories about what you noticed, great questions you thought to ask, and what you learned from setting your intention.

Come back often to read stories of encouragement and get your own personal encouragement as we build our community.