Encouraging Person - Awareness Strategies
If you want to become an encouraging person, here are a few strategies that will help you raise your awareness in ways that will enhance your creativity, improve your personal relationships, and fully engage in the parts of your life that really matter. Try them! They will make a positive impact on your life—and of the lives of family, friends, and associates.
Here’s an example of this Power Tool in Action!
I wake up and immediately make my coffee. I sit in my favorite chair and allow my mind to perk up. At the beginning of the day, I set my compass. I decide what my active attitude will be for the day.
“Today, I am going to a meeting where I am not going to know many people, so I choose the active attitude to “Be Welcoming.” Even if I don’t know others, I can choose to be welcoming to others, who, like me, may be new to the organization. This attitude will help me face my fear, help me feel brave—even when I’m really not—and give me the experience of overcoming a reasonably small fear.
At the end of the day, give yourself a few minutes to review how this way of being worked.
Going back to the example, here are my observations from setting my compass. “Guess what? It was terrific. It made me feel like I was already a part instead of the new girl on the block. I felt my confidence lift just from my attitude. I extended myself and ended up having marvelous conversations.”
Set Your Compass
The first step in becoming an encouraging person is to set your compass. Set Your Compass means establishing your intention for how you will approach your day.
Deciding how to approach each day, at the beginning of the day, gives you a chance to be more creative with your life. It allows you to try on different attitudes—even some that seem a bit uncomfortable—because you know these will help you stretch as a person.
How Do I Set My Compass?
Choose an active attitude to experiment with at the beginning of the day. Here are some ideas:
Be Game-Face Brave
Bonus: Add an adverb to color your active attitude. Examples:
Be Warmly Welcoming;
Be Unapologetically Aware;
Be Contagiously Confident
Other Pro Tips
Nothing is written in stone, so you can try on many ways of being for a day to see how they feel. Feel free to mix it up and create your own combos! Put yourself in experimental mode and have fun exploring attitudes that are not so familiar to you.
Make a List!
List ways of being that you have never really tried. Remember: Encouragement is an adventure in your own growth too!
Go from Zero to Hero!
Start with things that are comfortable, but I urge you to try the things that are OUT of your comfort zone and challenge you. You will surprise yourself with how good it feels.
Live on your Growing Edge!
The active attitudes you end up choosing are likely to be out of your comfort zone, but this is how you grow and get better, and it’s a big part of encouraging yourself.
Create Questions That Elevate The Conversation
What if we asked more interesting questions?
Perhaps we would find ourselves engaged in deeper conversations that mattered a great deal.
Some qualities of interesting questions:
They require more than a yes/no response.
They are questions that focus on the other person but are not pushy or nosy.
They often start with “what” or “how.”
How Do I Create Questions that Elevate?
Recognize Your Opportunities
There is an abundance of opportunity when it comes to encouragement.
Probably the easiest way to recognize it is by the emotion you see or perceive as you talk with someone. Here’s a list of some of the more common situations where encouragement can work magic.
Fear: of the unknown, of needing to meet new people, of stretching into a new job, of the demands of a better job, of motherhood or fatherhood, of raising a child with disabilities or sickness, of being a role model to your children, of living up to your own expectations, of big, life-changing decisions
Denial of talent
Lack of connection
On your road to becoming a more encouraging person, you’ll need to identify situations where encouragement can make a world of difference.
Here are situations that are greatly helped by encouraging words—especially more than once!
Figuring out a career path
Regrouping after losing a job
Creating a new path at retirement
Moving into a new life stage: college, marriage, divorce, death, retirement, aging, illness, celebrating success
Searching for purpose